Don’t you love receiving subtle wisdoms from the Universe? I do.
I especially love when the insights appear when and where I least expect them.
These messages are about unlocking the greater meaning in every thing around you; the Universal truths, if you will.
I view the arrival of sage understandings with amused curiosity, knowing there is a deeper message waiting for me, a Life Lesson, if you will, if I allow myself to be more introspective and analytical.
Granted, some times the message is clearly evident while other times it takes more thoughtfulness; but they’re there, none the less.
Think about playing a game of Hangman or a crossword puzzle. Some times the answer to the entire puzzle just jumps right out at you. Other times you couldn’t choose one correct letter, if your life depended upon it.
The answer is always there, waiting for you to unravel the mystery, in your own good time and in your own way.
A message was recently presented to me, quite unexpectedly. It was so powerful and meaningful; I’d like to share it with you, too.
Complex Simplicity or Simple Complexity?
Steven and I were out to dinner with my mother-in-law, Mamasan, and the Twinkies, as I call them. The Twinkies are our 11 year old twin nieces, Hannah and Holly.
Since Mamasan and the Twinkies live out of state, the five of us were catching up over dinner at a favorite restaurant.
While waiting for our food to arrive, Holly asked me, ‘Aunt Connie, are you still writing your blog?’ I replied, ‘Yes, I am.’
Then she asked me, ‘Are you having fun?’
Instead of answering her, I found myself sitting in stunned silence for a few seconds. I was amazed by the simplicity and the complexity of Holly’s question.
Are you having fun?
Wow! That question can be a measure for our lives, can’t it?
I know I appeared surprised by her question, because she immediately re-phrased it and asked, ‘What I mean is, do you still enjoy it?’
Do you still enjoy it?
It couldn’t be easier than that, now could it?
I told Holly that I am definitely having fun writing, blogging and connecting with my audience. I explained how I lose track of time when I’m writing, which means I’m positively having fun.
Then, I explained why it took me a few moments before I answered her question.
I told her that I found her first question to be quite meaningful. We talked; briefly, about how adults seem to lose that important perspective of, ‘Are you having fun?’ but that kids naturally get it.
From a child or tween perspective, if you’re not having fun, then why in the world would you do it, whatever ‘it’ is?
I told her to remember her question as she got older. I asked her if I could remind her, that she was supposed to have fun, when she grew up, too. She shook her head in agreement.
Our conversation then drifted to Holly and Hannah’s career aspirations. They both said they wanted to be dolphin researchers and trainers, while working in the family business in the Midwest and also writing and illustrating children’s books.
Both girls were concerned they don’t know anyone who does all those things.
Steven and I reassured them that if that’s what they really, truly want to be, with all their hearts, than we are confident they can become exactly that.
Getting Back to Basics
While driving home that weekend, I was deep in thought, pondering the philosophical meaning of Holly’s question.
How much more content would you be, if you only did things that were fun? Would you be more at peace with your life, if you only invested your time in things you enjoy? Are you a member of a club because you feel you have to be a member? Do you dread going to the meetings or activities? Are there clubs or organizations you’ve outgrown or never really wanted to join? Are there new activities or groups you’d prefer to explore? The time is now, to have fun, don’t you think?
How much happier would you be, if you allowed only supportive, loving and fun relationships in your life? Are there people in your life that are toxic or demand too much time, energy or attention from you? Are there relationships in your life that are unbalanced?
I refer to these people as Energy Vampires, because they suck the life right out of you. Think about that, for a moment because I mean it. Little by little, they literally suck the life force and joy, out of you.
I’ve extricated myself from abusive, negative and harmful relationships in my Life. It’s freed me to be true to who I am; a positive, optimistic and tenacious person who cares about people.
What about you? Are there friends in your life that you’ve outgrown? There’s no reason to pack your bags and go on a guilt trip over this. You’re just in different places than you once were.
To everything there is a season. Perhaps it’s time to move on. Maybe it’s time for you to meet new friends and grow in another direction.
How much more satisfied would you be with your life, if you discovered or created fun in your day? My husband, Steven, is the most playful, fun-loving person I know. According to Mamasan, he’s been that way since he was an infant. It’s who he is. More than that, it’s who Steven chooses to be. He finds fun, joy and happiness in every day, and I mean every day.
Steven inspires me. Laughter, smiles and love are a part of our Life. That’s a choice we both make, daily. It’s an infectious choice, too. Try it and see for yourself.
How passionate are you about your current career? I understand in today’s economy you don’t have the luxury of leaving your current position; if you are blessed with a career or a job at all, that is. That doesn’t mean you can’t pursue or work towards a career, now, that you’re passionate about.
It’s called planning for your future. It’s about taking responsibility for your happiness.
Now is the time to pick-up the training, certification or whatever steps are necessary so when the economy breaks free, you can make a career change you really desire and are excited about.
There is nothing worse than hearing the alarm go off in the morning and thinking ‘I can’t believe it’s time to go back there, again.’ Been there, done that. It’s a horrible way to exist.
Follow your passion and you’ll never work another day.
How passionate are you about your Life? When I hear friends say, ‘I have to go to dinner with my whole family.’ Or, ‘I have to clean my house this weekend.’ I gently try to shift their perspective.
I re-frame their statements by saying, ‘Yeah, you! You get to have dinner with your family; that means they want to see you.’
Or, ‘Aren’t you lucky? You have a house, and you get to clean it. You don’t have to clean it; you get to clean it.’
So much of our satisfaction with our Lives is tied to our attitude and perspective.
Start journaling about the positive things that happen in your life, so you can begin to see the true power of positive thinking. On days when you need a pick-me-up, you can re-read your writing journal or gratitude journal and focus on all the things you have to be grateful for, in your life.
So, what about you?
Are you having fun?
Do you still enjoy it, whatever ‘it’ is?
If not now, when?
Do you enjoy the people and experiences in your life? If not, what do you plan on doing about that?
How do you choose to have fun? How do you release worries and concerns? What are you passionate about?
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