Are You Having Fun? Do You Enjoy it?

by Connie

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Don’t you love receiving subtle wisdoms from the Universe?  I do.

I especially love when the insights appear when and where I least expect them.

These messages are about unlocking the greater meaning in every thing around you; the Universal truths, if you will.

I view the arrival of sage understandings with amused curiosity, knowing there is a deeper message waiting for me, a Life Lesson, if you will, if I allow myself to be more introspective and analytical.

Granted, some times the message is clearly evident while other times it takes more thoughtfulness; but they’re there, none the less.

Think about playing a game of Hangman or a crossword puzzle.  Some times the answer to the entire puzzle just jumps right out at you.  Other times you couldn’t choose one correct letter, if your life depended upon it.

The answer is always there, waiting for you to unravel the mystery, in your own good time and in your own way.

A message was recently presented to me, quite unexpectedly.  It was so powerful and meaningful; I’d like to share it with you, too.

Complex Simplicity or Simple Complexity?

Steven and I were out to dinner with my mother-in-law, Mamasan, and the Twinkies, as I call them.  The Twinkies are our 11 year old twin nieces, Hannah and Holly.

Since Mamasan and the Twinkies live out of state, the five of us were catching up over dinner at a favorite restaurant.

While waiting for our food to arrive, Holly asked me, ‘Aunt Connie, are you still writing your blog?’  I replied, ‘Yes, I am.’

Then she asked me, ‘Are you having fun?’

Instead of answering her, I found myself sitting in stunned silence for a few seconds.  I was amazed by the simplicity and the complexity of Holly’s question.

Are you having fun?

Wow!  That question can be a measure for our lives, can’t it?

I know I appeared surprised by her question, because she immediately re-phrased it and asked, ‘What I mean is, do you still enjoy it?’

Do you still enjoy it?

It couldn’t be easier than that, now could it?

I told Holly that I am definitely having fun writing, blogging and connecting with my audience.  I explained how I lose track of time when I’m writing, which means I’m positively having fun.

Then, I explained why it took me a few moments before I answered her question.

I told her that I found her first question to be quite meaningful.  We talked; briefly, about how adults seem to lose that important perspective of, ‘Are you having fun?’ but that kids naturally get it.

From a child or tween perspective, if you’re not having fun, then why in the world would you do it, whatever ‘it’ is?

I told her to remember her question as she got older. I asked her if I could remind her, that she was supposed to have fun, when she grew up, too.  She shook her head in agreement.

Our conversation then drifted to Holly and Hannah’s career aspirations.  They both said they wanted to be dolphin researchers and trainers, while working in the family business in the Midwest and also writing and illustrating children’s books.

Both girls were concerned they don’t know anyone who does all those things.

Steven and I reassured them that if that’s what they really, truly want to be, with all their hearts, than we are confident they can become exactly that.

Getting Back to Basics

While driving home that weekend, I was deep in thought, pondering the philosophical meaning of Holly’s question.

How much more content would you be, if you only did things that were fun?  Would you be more at peace with your life, if you only invested your time in things you enjoy? Are you a member of a club because you feel you have to be a member?  Do you dread going to the meetings or activities?  Are there clubs or organizations you’ve outgrown or never really wanted to join?  Are there new activities or groups you’d prefer to explore?  The time is now, to have fun, don’t you think?

How much happier would you be, if you allowed only supportive, loving and fun relationships in your life? Are there people in your life that are toxic or demand too much time, energy or attention from you?  Are there relationships in your life that are unbalanced?

I refer to these people as Energy Vampires, because they suck the life right out of you.  Think about that, for a moment because I mean it.  Little by little, they literally suck the life force and joy, out of you.

I’ve extricated myself from abusive, negative and harmful relationships in my Life.  It’s freed me to be true to who I am; a positive, optimistic and tenacious person who cares about people.

What about you?  Are there friends in your life that you’ve outgrown?  There’s no reason to pack your bags and go on a guilt trip over this.  You’re just in different places than you once were.

To everything there is a season.  Perhaps it’s time to move on.  Maybe it’s time for you to meet new friends and grow in another direction.

How much more satisfied would you be with your life, if you discovered or created fun in your day? My husband, Steven, is the most playful, fun-loving person I know.  According to Mamasan, he’s been that way since he was an infant.  It’s who he is.  More than that, it’s who Steven chooses to be.  He finds fun, joy and happiness in every day, and I mean every day.

Steven inspires me.   Laughter, smiles and love are a part of our Life.  That’s a choice we both make, daily.  It’s an infectious choice, too.  Try it and see for yourself.

How passionate are you about your current career? I understand in today’s economy you don’t have the luxury of leaving your current position; if you are blessed with a career or a job at all, that is.  That doesn’t mean you can’t pursue or work towards a career, now, that you’re passionate about.

It’s called planning for your future.  It’s about taking responsibility for your happiness.

Now is the time to pick-up the training, certification or whatever steps  are necessary so when the economy breaks free, you can make a career change you really desire and are excited about.

There is nothing worse than hearing the alarm go off in the morning and thinking ‘I can’t believe it’s time to go back there, again.’  Been there, done that.  It’s a horrible way to exist.

Follow your passion and you’ll never work another day.

How passionate are you about your Life? When I hear friends say, ‘I have to go to dinner with my whole family.’  Or, ‘I have to clean my house this weekend.’ I gently try to shift their perspective.

I re-frame their statements by saying, ‘Yeah, you!  You get to have dinner with your family; that means they want to see you.’

Or, ‘Aren’t you lucky?  You have a house, and you get to clean it.  You don’t have to clean it; you get to clean it.’

So much of our satisfaction with our Lives is tied to our attitude and perspective.

The next time negative thoughts begin to seep into your gray matter, give them the bootRe-frame your point of view and see if a positive mental attitude doesn’t immediately shift your perspective.

Start journaling about the positive things that happen in your life, so you can begin to see the true  power of positive thinking.  On days when you need a pick-me-up, you can re-read your writing  journal or gratitude journal and focus on all the things you have to be grateful for, in your life.

So, what about you?

Are you having fun?

Do you still enjoy it, whatever ‘it’ is?

If not now, when?

Do you enjoy the people and experiences in your life?  If not, what do you plan on doing about that?

How do you choose to have fun?  How do you release worries and concerns? What are you passionate about?

Please share your comments using the form, below.

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Keith November 4, 2010 at 3:45 pm

Connie,
Thanks for this “sage understanding.” You just have a way with those inspiring stories — and what a great photo!

Tonight, I’m taking your sage advice and pondering the question you posed: Are there things I’ve “grown out of” that are no longer fun, or even useful? Because, you know what? There are!

Thanks for the gentle reminder. As always.
Keith

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Connie November 5, 2010 at 5:45 pm

Keith,
Thanks for the compliment. And, I agree, the photo is a favorite of mine. Mamasan is beautiful and the Twinkies are both smart as whips and sweet and adorable, as well.

We sometimes become so ‘used to’ how things are in our lives that we forget we have the power to question if they still ‘fit’.

Thanks for taking the time to write,
Connie

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Katesa Wesche November 5, 2010 at 4:07 pm

Connie,
Thank you for your article. Very inspiring. It encourages me to appreciate the things that I already have. I am loved by so many people. I need to wake up and appreciate that.

With the new knowledge that’s taught to me, I’m beginning to focus on my purpose and what I can do to have fun and enjoy every moment of my life. So yes, with a purpose I can see myself, not from a hazy focus, but as you say fiercely forging forward. So plans are on the way to enjoy life and bless others.

Thank you for your life and what it can teach me. I haven’t had a major calamity in my life. I have always been free to think and feel and do what I want; and for that I am grateful. But without putting things in perspective, I was not living my best life.

So here I am, open to learning and loving it. I am sure I can benefit from your teaching, just have to make sure I don’t become a vampire. (ha ha)

Thank you again,

Katesa

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Connie November 5, 2010 at 6:01 pm

Katesa,
Thanks for sharing. It’s so wonderful that you have so many people in your life who love you.

Your openness and gratitude will serve you well on your journey! I’m happy to hear you have plans to enjoy life and bless others, because that will return to you, ten-fold, Katesa.

To Your Best Life,
Connie

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Krystyna Domagala November 18, 2010 at 9:49 pm

THANK YOU! This is exactly why Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. How often do we go about our day thinking of all the terrible things that happened? Yeah, some days really do suck. Its so easy to see the negative parts of life, but so rewarding to see the positive sides! Its not like you shouldn’t ever feel sad, thats a part of life. But when you train yourself to think of all the positives instead of all the negatives, you honest to god have a completely different outlook on life.

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Connie December 22, 2010 at 1:53 pm

Krystyna,

For some reason, people naturally seem hard-wired to focus on the negatives or the annoyances in their lives. I’ve never understood why.

The reality is, the majority of our days are usually filled with blessings, positive things or little things we tend to take for granted.

Thanks for sharing your perspective on the difference a positive attitude has made in your life.

Connie

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Katesa Wesche December 12, 2010 at 12:11 am

I agree Krystyna. I love your comment, and you are absolutely right. Thank you I enjoyed that

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