You Are Enough

by Connie

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While I’ve not had the pleasure of meeting most of you, I do know something very special about you. 

And that is this, you are enough

Amongst all the demands of your life; deadlines at work, practice and game schedules, social and volunteer commitments, doctor and dentist appointments, relationships with family and friends, school assignments, holidays and vacations, you are already enough.

Isn’t that a wonderful thing?  It’s as if the most important thing on your Life’s ‘to do’ list has already been checked off, for you. 

Wherever you stand, at this moment in your Life, juggling multiple schedules with the skill of an air traffic controller, managing your household, most likely caring for those older and younger than you, while worrying about your size, your shape, your hair, or your career, you are enough.

You don’t need to do anything more, to be enough.  There is no course for you to take, no test for you to pass.  You are already there.  Take a moment to drink that in, and celebrate that fact with me.   Yeah, You!

That’s not to say that there isn’t room for change or a ‘do over’ or greater pleasure, in one, or more, areas of your Life.  I love, love, love my Life, but I’m always striving to better myself.

Is Your Life Really Working For You?

It means that if you are ready for it and if you are brave enough to transform part, or all, of your Life, if you dare to push yourself to grow, then you are coming to the table with everything you need, to make that change.  And it doesn’t even matter what that change is.

Have you ever walked into a model home and thought; ‘Wow, this is a great room, with such beautiful furniture.  But it just doesn’t work for me.  If it were my home, I would set the couch there, move that end table and put the potted peace lily in that corner.’

It’s the same thing, with your Life.  You’re already ‘bringing it’ to the table.  You already have all the pieces-parts you’ll ever need.  How do I know?  Because you are enough.

If you’re feeling like your Life just isn’t working for you, maybe you need to move some things around, or make more drastic changes, so that you Life feels more balanced, so that it works for you

Asking Your Fairy Godmother For Help

How can you identify areas in your Life that aren’t working?  How do you know your Life isn’t balanced?  I’ve got a simple solution for you. 

Take a moment to think about the areas of your Life that you would want altered, if your Fairy Godmother suddenly appeared. 

If your Fairy Godmother could wave her wand and magically transform your Life; what would you ask her to change?  Would there be one thing or a grocery list?  Choose the item of greatest importance to you, the item you feel most compelled to change.

Whatever your answer is, that is what I would focus on, if you are ready and if you truly want to transform your Life. 

Maybe you’re feeling like your primary relationship isn’t fulfilling.  Maybe you loathe your job and feel you need to make whatever sacrifices are necessary so you can return to school, allowing you to head down a different career path. 

Maybe you’ve realized that you’re a human door mat for your children, and you’re tired of it.  Maybe you’re feeling isolated and sorry for yourself and what your Life has become.  It’s my belief that none of this happened by accident.

That doesn’t mean you can’t change.  But, first, you have to be ready for change. 

Do You Want It?  Do You Really, Really Want It?

You have to be hungry for it.  You have to really want it, like a runner really wants a cold drink after finishing a race.  You have to want change, like a 16 year old wants their first solo drive, after getting their license.  You have to need a Life makeover like a celebrity needs the paparazzi. 

If you are ready, and if you really need it, I know you can do it.  I do.

So, what about you?  Are you ready for it?  Are you hungry for it?  What do you need to change, in your Life?  If you are ready, what steps are you ready to take, so your transformation can begin? 

I’d be honored if you would share your answers with me.  Please use the comment section, below, to weigh-in.

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Krystyna Domagala November 18, 2010 at 10:44 pm

I think your point about really REALLY wanting it is spot on. I think I want a lot of things, but I really don’t. As of right now, I value my situation more than I value the things I think I want.

I remember the last time I decided to join Weight Watchers like it was yesterday. I was worried about my weight for a while, tried cutting back, but it just wasn’t right. Then one day, I was sitting on my bed and I decided right then and there that I had enough of it. I was going to lose weight, and whats more, I was ready to lose weight. Once I REALLY wanted it (not just a superficial want), I lost it all.

A few years back, there was an Oprah episode where a severely obese woman came on the show. She said that she wanted to lose weight, and Oprah said something I’ll never forget. She asked her if she really wanted it. My first response was “Wow, what a stupid question. Of course!” But it really got me thinking. Even if the change is good, we might not be ready for it. We might not be ready to take ourselves out of our misery. And until we are ready, until we REALLY want that, no action will matter. You will just compensate for whatever positive change by forcing yourself back into the position.

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Connie December 22, 2010 at 2:23 pm

Krystyna,

For years, I carried extra weight as a protection against the big, bad world out there. Once I chose to change my view of the world, I no longer needed the weight to keep me safe.

It wasn’t until I REALLY wanted it, and I was REALLY ready, that the weight came off, for me, too.

There’s a line from an Eagles song that I love. ‘So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains, and we never even know we have the key.’

It’s spot-on insight, isn’t it?

Congratulations on your commitment to living a healthier lifestyle, Krystyna.

Thanks for sharing your insights.

Connie

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