How to Stop Sabotaging Your Success

by Connie

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Proving once again that you can learn something from everyone here’s another insightful quote, from the American actor Charlie Sheen:

‘As kids we’re not taught how to deal with success; we’re taught how to deal with failure. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again. If you do succeed, then what?’

When we achieve our measure of success, well…then what?

What do you do when you’re finally living the good life? Do you deserve to live your dreams? How will you act? What will you do?

Will people think you’re selfish or egotistical? Will you lose your friends? Those thoughts can be pretty scary and intimidating, because it’s uncharted territory.

It’s important to be aware of your fears which have caused you to sabotage your success in the past, so you don’t derail yourself again.

It’s useful to figure out your thoughts and feelings which lead you to self-sabotage, because it allows you to learn and grow beyond your past mistakes.

I read of a woman who won the lottery, twice. Each time, she ended up financially worse-off, then before she won.

She acknowledged that she lost all her multi-millions, twice, because she was just a poor girl who grew up in the projects who had no business winning the lottery. She never believed she deserved to win.

When the Universe offered her another chance to see if she’d left her fears behind and if she decided she was entitled to win millions, she hadn’t changed her mindset. So, she lost all her millions, again.

The lesson here is to diffuse your fears so you can have the very things you say you most want.

You’ll want to think about the fears you have of being successful, because they’re very personal.

In order to create, visualize and sustain success you’ll need to identify and free yourself from your ‘fear of achieving’.

What happens when, (not, if) you succeed? What if you don’t deserve this? Once you’ve reached your goal, will you be able to maintain it?

The fear of success appears when you’re sincere about choosing change, because with every change you make you’re building momentum towards reaching your goal.

Fear will test you, when you’re taking action towards your new and improved Life, because it wants to be sure you’re serious about what you want.

If you’re afraid and give up, your dream must not have been that important to you after all, right?

Think about what you fear so you can dispel it. Write it down.

You fear stepping outside of your comfort zone. You fear being vulnerable. You fear the unknown. You fear being helpless.

Most of all, you fear how very, very powerful you are.

‘It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.’

Alan Cohen, author

Some fears of success are easy to obliterate. Others stay with you like the piece of white, static-charged lint that’s stuck to your black sweater.

Even though some fears may seem impossible to shake, you can leave them behind. It’s going to take a little work on your part.

Here’s the key to the kingdom:

  • Every fear you have or create will vaporize when you take your power back. Change comes from having a choice.
  • We always have the power to choose, which means we always have the power to change.

Think about what your fear of success means, while you’re taking steps towards your target. You’re in control here, not them.

Don’t let your fears play mind-games with you. They aren’t that powerful.

But you are.

Take back your power and show your fear who’s in charge.

I know you can do this.

Somewhere deep inside, you know that too.

Think back to times when you almost let your fears get the best of you. What did you do to take your power back? How did you show them who really was the Boss?

If you currently fear your ultimate goal, what do you think is behind those fears? What do you feel you need to do to dissipate those silly, irrational fears?

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