Invite Extraordinary Things into Your Life, by Saying ‘Yes’

by Connie

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Years ago, I saw a tag line in an ad, that I absolutely fell in love with.  It resonated so deeply inside of me that it’s been on my vision board, ever since. 

It reads: 

‘Doing things differently leads to something exceptional!’ 

What an inspiring concept.  But, you’ve got to crawl before you can walk, right?  How do you learn to do things differently

After living in a self-imposed, confined world, you’ve probably got to learn how to embrace, ‘Yes!’, again. 

As with any workout, you’d never start off trying to run a 26-mile marathon, the very first day. 

Nope; if you did, you’d never stick with the exercise program. 

You’ve got to ease into it, taking baby steps. 

You’ve got to stretch and warm-up first. 

You’ve got to practice; slowly building up your tolerance and strength. 

Facts are facts. 

You won’t move onto the next step towards your new Life unless you’re feeling as comfortable, safe and confident, as possible.  Somewhere inside of you, you have to know you can do it. 

That means you’re going to begin taking those baby steps, now. 

Here’s how to embrace ‘Yes’ again: 

Begin saying ‘Yes’; instead of ‘No’.  When someone asks you a ‘yes or no’ question answer ‘Yes’, instead of ‘No’, when its both appropriate and safe to do so. 

Think of ‘Yes’ as your new ‘default setting.’  It’s a new way for you to exist in your world. 

If your natural inclination is to say ‘No’, turn down, reject, balk at or decline an invitation or request; just say ‘Yes’ instead and see what happens. 

Every time you say ‘Yes’, you’re welcoming new experiences, people and opportunities to come into your Life. 

It’s got to start somewhere, right? 

That ‘somewhere’ starts by taking baby steps and practicing ‘Yes’, as in right now, as in today. 

Every day, think of 1 to 3 things you can say ‘Yes’ to, then take action.  It’s about stepping outside of your comfort zone, in a way that you’ll still feel safe.  What’s the worst thing that can happen, if you don’t like what you’ve explored?  Here are some ideas: 

  • Is there a new tea, soup or salad dressing to taste?  Yes.
  • Is there a new book or movie genre can you explore?  Yes.
  • Is there a new variety of magazine you can buy?  Yes. 

Every day, commit to doing 1 to 3 small things, differently.  We tend to be creatures of habit.  Routines can incarcerate us, if we aren’t careful.  You’re going to try familiar things, using a fresh approach.  You’ll feel more comfortable trying things that are unfamiliar to you, sooner than you think. 

  • Shake things up a bit, by switching the order of your daily routine. If you always have your morning tea, before taking your shower, reverse the order, so you can get used to how it feels to do something known, another way. 
  • If you always start your day with a biscuit or fruit eat something different, for breakfast.  If you don’t eat breakfast, commit to eating something and see how that feels.
  • Take a new route to work or while running errands.  Take the train to work, instead of driving.  Park in a different lot.  Take the stairs, instead of the elevator. 

Commit to interacting with new people, every day.  This exercise is about becoming comfortable around unacquainted people.  You’ll want to begin feeling relaxed around others, so you can expand your world and the people you invite into it. 

  • Every day, speak with someone new.  Start up a conversation with a ‘friend you haven’t met, yet’.  This is someone you see regularly at school, at the store, train or bus station, but you’ve never spoken to them.  Ask them their name.  Bring the paper, or mail, to a neighbor.  Get used to making small talk with others.  Start using those muscles of yours, so you can begin to strengthen them.
  • Invite someone new to dine with you.  If you usually eat lunch alone, ask someone to join you.  Suggest going for a short walk, afterwards.  The change of scenery will give you lots of ‘convo-starters’ and being outdoors will help you relax, too.
  • Make a list of 2-3 people you enjoy, but don’t know very well.  Ask each of them if you can meet them for tea or a short phone call once a week, so you can begin a friendship, or at the very least, an acquaintance-ship. 

I’m sure you’re getting the feel for this workout, by now. 

This exercise is about doing familiar things in an unfamiliar way. 

It’s about getting comfortable making small choices, in a way that’s untested. 

It’s about you beginning to expand your world, and your presence in it. 

It’s about daring to. 

It’s about doing things differently so you can invite something exceptional into your Life. 

It’s about being adventurous. 

It’s about you writing the next chapter of your Life. 

Like the Swedish Proverb says, 

‘God gives every bird a worm, but he doesn’t throw it into the nest.’

 Isn’t it time for you to go get your worm? 

Why, yes.  Yes, it is. 

What can you say ‘yes’ to, today?  What have you said ‘yes’ to in the past, that has led to exceptional things happening in your Life?  I’d love it if you said, ‘yes’ to sharing your comments or my blog.  If you like this blog and know someone who would enjoy or benefit from reading this post, please click on the ‘share buttons’ below to email, tweet or facebook, ‘like’ it.

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Holly February 19, 2011 at 6:50 pm

This line really underlined your entire article for me: “You’re going to try familiar things, using a fresh approach.” I think I’m going to make this my mantra for the next few days and see where it takes me. Thanks!

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Connie February 21, 2011 at 3:39 pm

Holly,
I’m glad something in this post jumped off the page and spoke to you. One of the objects I enjoy the most is a children’s toy called a Dragon Fly Eye. It’s a multi-prism looking glass that creates multiple versions of whatever you’re looking at. It reminds me that there’s Always another perspective. That’s similar to the quote you cited.

Often times, we feel overwhelmed by the prospect of overhauling our lives. The reality is that most often major changes gain their own momentum, by simply patching a few imperfections and appplying a fresh coat of paint, so to speak. Thanks for taking time to write.

Connie

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Jithin June 17, 2011 at 8:50 am

hey connie,

Thanks for giving a wonderful idea about ‘yes’ that you presented in an interesting way.I completely agree with your approach towards saying ‘yes’ in life, thank you buddy, i’m gonna try your advice hope it works. :)

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Connie June 19, 2011 at 7:15 pm

Hi, Jithin,

Thank you for taking time to write!

I’m excited for you to incorporate ‘Yes!’ into your Life, in this new way.

I’m confident that since you are so open to this approach you’ll find it successful for you.

Give it a try, then write back and let me know what results you’ve drawn into your Life.

Connie

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