Since the season for parties and celebrations is upon us, I wanted to share my favorite conversation starters, with you. The point of ice breakers is to get an exchange of dialogue going among a cluster, or group, of people.
Think of a discussion between you and another person like playing a game of catch, with a ball. You gently toss the ball to the person, by asking them a question. That person answers the question, and then tosses the ball back, to you or another person in the group, by asking a question or making an interesting comment.
Voila! Just like that, the conversation is off and running.
And it all took root with your inspiring and thought-provoking question. Now, I ask you, how cool, and simple, is that?
Conversation starters are all about relaxing and loosening up, so you get to know one another, in a casual, relaxed way. Openers are about putting people at ease, including you, so keep that in mind, too.
Once people are comfortable, they’ll lighten up and begin talking about their favorite subject, themselves. Most everyone enjoys sharing something about their lives.
My experience has been that when you allow people the opportunity to talk about themselves, and you listen to what they have to say, they’ll find you interesting, and engaging, too. It’s interesting how that works, isn’t it?
You’ll want to stick to asking open-ended questions. Asking questions with ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answers are pure conversation energy drains; they’re like Kryptonite to tête-à-têtes.
I recommend that you practice these openers, aloud, if possible, until they feel comfortable to you. You’ll want them to feel like they fit and they’re a natural part of your conversation, before trying them out at an event.
You don’t have to memorize all of them. Having two or three of these, in your repertoire, is usually enough to help you through most parties.
So, without further ado, here is my,
Top 10 List of Conversation Starters for Parties:
- What’s the most interesting thing about you? Why?
- What magazines do you subscribe to?
- What’s your favorite website? (I follow The Power To Live, naturally.)
- What’s your dream vacation? Why?
- What are you most proud of doing or accomplishing, in your life? Why?
- If you could invite any three historic figures, notable people or celebrities to dinner, who would they be? Why?
- What’s your favorite indulgence?
- What’s the last good book you read or movie you enjoyed?
Do you have any secret weapons; any great questions you ask to get others to relax and share something about themselves? If you do, please share your suggestions, using the form below.